These are the words of a bully.
Six years ago or so I had contacted one of the people who bullied me at high school.
These words and his subsequent words of apology and elaboration of what he was experiencing in terms of bullying and unhappiness as well as his closing words of support, were pure therapy and catharsis for me. It also provided an insight into his Psyche at the time in that for him, HIS time at school was not his happiest.
This contact triggered something emotionally moving and positive for me and cleared a lot of emotional baggage that I had been holding on to, for far too long. He experienced bullying at home and that he wasn’t fond of his school years put a lot in context for me.
It was in response to a letter I had written to those I considered as the main bullying perpetrators. Only I chose to send this letter and not rip it up. For me it wasn’t enough just to rip it up. And I’m glad I sent it.
But the main takeaway for me today is that I strongly believe that my work with workplace bullying and my work as workplace harmony consultant is my 360 approach (apologies for the cliche) is that the bully is taken into consideration – literally.
You can’t resolve a problem like workplace bullying without considering the bully. They are human and nobody bullies for no reason.
Until I accepted that, I wasn’t going to move on from it.
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