Hello everyone!
I hope you are well, happy and content. Hopefully you are looking forward to continuing with your day and your week ahead with positivity, lightness and joy.
In this post we are asking the question; Is what happens to us luck, pre-destined or the consequence of what we have “designed”?
We are going to reflect on our ability to influence our “destiny” and make our own decisions to help determine the life we want.
It is clear that no matter how much effort we put in, not everything turns out as we would like. On the other hand, some things go well and even better than anticipated. Very often this can seem to happen without our apparent intervention, dedication or even effort to make things happen.
In these circumstances, people will refer this to the notion of “luck.”
I recommend that you read the book “Good luck” by Alex Rovira.
He is able to represent what our role is in creating the desired circumstances so that things turn out well.
In any case, it is not advisable to leave everything “to fate”. Fate implies randomness and, furthermore, in every journey both the destination and the road are to be enjoyed, aren’t they?
We know that not everything depends on us but we also know how important it is to take responsibility (and action!) in our own life. What we enjoy in life is proportional to the involvement we have.
And the “luck” we have in life is also proportional to how much we work. Samuel Goldwyn used to say: “the harder I work, the luckier I get.”
The quantity and quality of our work is in our hands, under our control, and is a key factor in the results we will achieve.
Our decision making is another factor. We cannot decide in all circumstances, we cannot decide for others. But we can decide how we interpret circumstances, how we direct our feelings and attitude. We can decide our reaction, that is: how we will respond, the next step we will take. To quote Bonnie Hammer: “You cannot change how people act, but what you change is how you react”
Design your day
- Choose your mood
You can have a difficult boss, a bitter colleague. Perhaps there is someone in your family (or in-laws) somewhat uptight or prone to feeling miserable.
It is easy to meet people, each with their circumstances, who are not in a position to smile. They are them and you are you. You can choose to smile. You can decide that this is going to be a good day and that it is going to be okay, whatever happens. You can decide to be kind and caring to others.
- Take the reins
The more control you take in your life, the closer the results will be to your plans.
You have to start by having clear plans, setting small goals, such as enjoying a train ride, for example looking out the window or enjoying a book. Find a way to “squeeze” pleasure.
Remember the feelings you had as a child when you looked out of the window on a bus/car or train ride. Re-connect with your inner child and look for pleasure in the small things. It is the small things that can make a difference and lead to finding pleasure in the unexpected
- Protect dignity
Yours and others’. You don’t have to look down on anyone, criticise anyone (learn to distinguish people from their behavior) and try not to judge.
Feedback has its time and place. Information is necessary to learn and improve, but it is not necessary to belittle or make anyone feel inferior in any way. Encourage people and bring about the change you are looking for.
To paraphrase Mahatma Gandhi: ‘Be the change you want to be/see’
- Enjoy a positive community
“God creates them and they come together” goes the Spanish saying. “Choose your company” is the advice here, find people who show understanding and empathy but don’t “sink you further into misery” when things go wrong. Surround yourself with happy people and be a happy person who attracts others who want to be with you. You will enjoy your own company much more too.
What do you want out of your day, week, month?
What circumstances do you want to create for yourself and your environment?
The key to remember is you are responsible for you and until you can take care of you and learn, you will continue to make the same learning opportunities as you have done time and time again
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